Coming Out
It used to be that gay people kept their sexual orientation secret until they were adults, and sometimes even for their whole lives. Thankfully, things aren't still like that today. More and more gay people feel comfortable revealing their homosexual orientation (to come out) to their parents, other family members or friends. If you're pretty sure you're gay, the big questions you face are: who to tell? And when and how to tell them?
Before taking the plunge, consider the following questions:
- Are you sure you're gay?
If you're not sure, it's better to wait until you have a more solid sense of your sexual orientation.
- Are you able to take criticism or initial rejection?
The person you're coming out to may need time to absorb the information. Instant approval is nice (and sometimes you'll get it), but you need to prepare yourself emotionally for a less-than-enthusiastic response.
- Do you feel pressured to come out? Is this really your decision?
Although coming out is a liberating experience (sometimes only in the long run) for most people, there's no rule that says you have to come out. Follow your own instincts and if you want to come out, only do it when you're really ready.
